Okay guys, Pay attention! Class is in session, again! The Subject: Relationship 101. The topic? How to break up with your girlfriend part 2. So sit back, buckle up and enjoy the ride because Mr lecturer is at it again. So continuing from where we stopped..........
Be sensitive to her feelings! Gently explain to her why it won’t work out between the two of you. Let her understand that you are no longer happy in the relationship, and that it would be unfair to the both of you to continue when one person wants out. You don’t have to be curt and drop the bombshell, then walk away. Use your judgment to decide which day will be best to call it quits with her. If she is the emotional type and you think she will be heartbroken, do it on a Friday. This will give her the weekend to recover and be with friends, but if she is the type to plow full steam ahead, do it on a Monday. This will ensure that her busy work or school schedule will keep her mind off the relationship. When the storm calms down, being sensitive can ensure that there will be a chance of you two remaining friends sometime in the future.
Keep it
simple!! It doesn't have to take long. There is no reason to put her
through the whole history of why you are breaking up with
her. She does deserve an explanation, but save her (and yourself) the exhausting
history of how and why things went bad between you two. You have to be clear
about why you think your relationship is at an end. Also, try and pepper that
clear reality with a dose of regret. It is important for her to know that the
decision to break up with her was also very difficult for you. By letting this
be known, you make a soon to be ex-girlfriend a friend in mutual sorrow. A word
of advice; don’t tell her you’ll call her when you have no plans of doing so!!! Part of keeping it simple is letting things end smoothly. Be fair to both you
and her. Any deviation from these could result in her unleashing her venom on
you later on, and you don’t want that. William Congreve made that clear in his
quote.
Be firm!!! There is a big reason why you decided to confront her with the end of your
relationship. She may argue or act confused about why you want to end things
between you two. You have to stick to your guns and also; be prepared for tears.
Whether she’s glad you said something or not, chances are tears will be shed.
Ending a relationship can bring about intense emotional display and she’s not
about to spare you from seeing it all pour out at once. When she starts crying,
be sympathetic, but don’t be drawn in by an overflow of powerful emotion. You have
to be an emotional rock. If your new “ex-girlfriend” is the stoic type (saving her
emotions for a later time when you are not around), don’t try to cajole a reaction
from her. Let her be and tell her you are ready to talk when she is.
Breaking up is never easy. But having the courage to follow through your decision will benefit both of you later on when the relationship has passed its romantic phase. In other to ensure that there is a strong possibility of remaining friends in the near future, it is important to follow these concise factors: mode of breaking up with her, where to break up with her, how sensitive you are, how simple you should keep it, and how firm you should be. Be true to your emotions and do what’s best for you and her.
Okay guys, from here on formality flies out the window and Professor Zukky takes a break. In comes happy go lucky Zukky. I hope that was enlightening for you guys? Any questions or comments, please don't hesitate to let me know. Thanks for your time and patience. Stay tuned for my next blog. As for you ladies, you class session is fast approaching. WATCH OUT FOR IT!!!!
Cheers.
Zukky.
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