Like William Congreve said “Heaven hath no rage like love to hatred turned, nor hell a fury like a woman Scorned”. Ending a relationship is never easy, irrespective of who is initiating the breakup. Being able to end one amicably with a girlfriend is an art which seems to have eluded most men recently. Some men over the years have devised different means of breaking up with their girlfriends, each person going about it the way that best suits him. In as much as these methods differ, one thing they all have in common is that there are consequences that follow as a result of many of them doing a lousy job of it. Women are different from men. This is one major concept most people fail to realize in relationships. The way attraction occurs for both sexes differ, so does the way both reason. Men are visual beings, in the sense that they are attracted by what they see. Women on the other hand tend to be attracted more by what they hear, and the personality of a man. Men are more logical in their way of reasoning, while women tend to be more emotional in theirs. As a man, breaking up with a girlfriend is akin to navigating across a mine field. If not properly executed, it can blow up in your face. You have to perfect this technique the way soldiers in the military Special Forces perfect their tactics before being deployed for a dangerous mission, because hypothetically speaking, they are one and the same. You wouldn't want a scorned ex-girlfriend to harbor a vendetta against you. Having made up your mind as a man to breakup with your girlfriend, these are the key factors you must take into consideration while doing that: how to let her know, where you let her know, how sensitive to be with regards to her feelings, how to keep it simple, and how firm you are while doing it.
How you inform your girlfriend about your impending breakup with her is very
important. This must be done in person. You should never tell her over the phone,
through a text message or an email. Out of respect for her, this must be done
face to face. Phone calls and text messages are good for small talk, but this is
a big issue. Most men even stoop so low as leaving sticky notes on their girlfriend’s
door when she’s probably at work or school, and hightail it out of there. This
is a very nasty practice and speaks volumes about the man’s character and lack
of decency. It is natural to want as much distance as possible between you and her when you break the bad news, but fight that
instinct and have the decency to say it to her face. One more thing; Never you
tell your friends you are going to break up with her, while you haven’t told
her it is over yet. This is one thing women consider sacred. Recently, some men
have been known to breakup with their girlfriends on Facebook. The all too
connected grapevine is not the place she should or deserves to find out that
you are no longer interested. Your final decision to break up with her should
remain private. Be man enough to face her and get it over with.
Where you break up with her should be well thought out. It is
advisable to find a neutral locale. It is unfair for you to break up with her
in your place; neither should you be subjected to the awkward task of seeing a
picture of you guys in a cozy mood hung in her sitting room. Look for a place
where both of you can be comfortable and be able to walk and talk and express
your feelings; preferably an amusement park. Crowded places like bars or
restaurants are to be avoided like the plague, because if she makes a scene,
there is no respectful recovery and no easy way out. However, fear of
embarrassment is never a reason to leave her in the middle of nowhere, no
matter how heated and emotional the conversation gets. There is no excuse for
risking her safety. Look for a good place!!!
Okay guys, that's it for today. Stay tuned for the remainder of the lecture, and ladies please wipe those smirks off your faces because your own class is coming up as soon as i'm done with my fellow guys here. Watch out for the second part of my lecture. It's COMING SOON!!!!
cheers.
Zukky.
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