Okay ladies, this is your time in the spot light. Pay attention! Class is in session, Subject: Relationship 101. Topic: How to break up with your boyfriend. Well, unlike the lecture that i gave my fellow guys on the parallel topic, i don't have the time nor energy to be all formal here ( please bear with me), but i believe that ladies need to hear this straight and direct (with a twist). The smart ones will pay attention. I've had the misfortune of witnessing ladies breaking up with their boyfriends, and the way they usually go about it makes me roar with anger sometimes (Grrrr!). Listen ladies, if you've had it up to here (* making slashing sign at the top of my throat*) with your bumbling boyfriend and want to call it quits with him, that's good and fine. I'd probably be cheering you all the way, so long as you go about it the right way, and follow these simple steps.
Please Be Honest!!!
This is one thing so many ladies are incapable of doing when ending a relationship! I really can’t convey how vital it is for you to be honest when breaking up with your guy. Not only does your honesty provide him with the reasons you’re breaking up with him (he's too nice to a fault, he’s too clingy, his socks never match, his breath smells like something the cat dragged in, you've lost your attraction for him, etc.), but it will also keep your guilty conscience from popping up on you later. Be honest with the young chap and you’ll hopefully have a clean breakup you can feel “good” about. (If you’re actually happy while breaking up with someone, I suggest consulting a therapist Fast!!. Don't give all those transparent lies (It's not your fault, I'm not ready for a relationship right now; and then you go on to date the jock down the street even before your words dry out). Be honest and real. He'll respect you more.
Don’t be fickle minded
Many girls decide to break up on the spur of the moment, and then they regret it or end up feeling more miserable than the guy, especially when the guy decides to walk away. We’re talking about a relationship here, not some shopping sale. If you think you’ll be happier single, then reaffirm that thought and stick with it. Most girls are pretty fickle minded when it comes to a break up, and most guys know that. Don’t be that girl.
DON'T Leave Him any Hope!!!
This sounds a lot crueler than it is, but it’s important not to lead a guy on as you’re breaking up with him. So if you’re done being with him, don’t do the “…just not RIGHT NOW, Mike thing". That gives him false hope and when that happens, guys end up calling you the “B” word (no, not “beautiful”) or something.
Leaving him a sliver of hope only makes him into the guy who eventually leaves you handwritten letters in your mailbox with a small animal’s head attached. If you’re serious about the breakup, make it a clean break.If he tries cajole you on the matter paste a big No on your forehead. Trust me, he'll get one part of the "No" fast. either the 'N' or the 'O'!!
Please BE NICE!!!
I get the line of thinking that says if you’re rude or mean when breaking up with someone then they’re likely to get over you more quickly. That may be true, but using that method will almost guarantee you being described in a less-than-flattering way. And we don’t want that. Really, there’s no reason to be brutal. I mean, you’re breaking up with the guy; you can at least be nice about it. Simply tell him you no longer want to be in a relationship with him and then tell him why (in the nicest possible way!) but be firm. He may cry (real men cry when a girl breaks their heart) and/or curse the heavens, but at least he can’t—in good conscience—say you were mean while doing it. And that’s a win, Lady!!
PLEASE LEAVE HIM ALONE.... Once You’ve Broken Up with Him!!!!
I know that you’re just the sweetest little thing that ever walked this earth and you just want to check on him to make sure he’s okay, but if you broke a boy’s heart by breaking up with him, leave him the freak alone!! There’s nothing worse than your phone blowing up with messages from the girl who just dumped you, making sure you’re “doing okay”. It’s awfully horrible (* excuse the phrase*), but it's true!
If you want the breakup to stick, then leave the poor guy alone. He needs to get over you and that can’t be done if you’re constantly checking on him etc. Leave him be and he’ll be just fine. I promise (unless he starts stalking you and mysteriously appear every where you go, then i suggest you have a 911 speed dial programmed to your cell phone immediately!!).
There you have it ladies, no more shenanigans. Do this and your break-up will go as smothly as a BMW sports car. Hope this helps. have a great time peeps.
Cheers.
Zukky.
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